10 SIGNS that let you know ITS TIME TO TIE THE KNOT... in no chronological order. You should be OKAY WITH ALL OF THEM!
*An interpretation of Scot Mckays, "How Do You Know When It's Time To get Married?"
Well ladies and gentleman... we have come to that point in our lives where we areALL damn near thirty or damn near forty... so with that said, I have taken it upon myself to make a little checklist of when you know its time to tie the knot. And honestly it may be time to roll if you THOUGHT you could check some of these items off and your siggy (significant other) isn't on the same page. Sorry, but I don't think you should wait forever for someone to come around because first and foremost timing is everything, but you know that already because the fact that you are reading this means that you are already in a stable relationship and not lying to yourself... right? Cool.
Sign Number 1: YA WANNA DO EACH OTHA... ALL THE TIME
Seriously, You MUST be sexually attracted, to your siggy, if you aren't when those hormones kick in, and those desires grow, your mind and eyes will wander, and where the mind goes the body follows. Don't set yourself up to be an unfaithful cheater. Then all you'll do is fall into a huge state of depression and misery. WTF
Sign Number 2: YOU ARE NOT JUST TWIRK BUDDIES, BUT ALSO BFF's
Just because you can hang on to each other doesn't mean you should be together. People often get stuck in a relationship because of comfort and habit, and they don't want to spend the time to get to know someone else.That doesn't mean that couple actually likes each other. Time passed doesn't mean you get along, if you argue to the point where you are upset everyday, or get into a serious argument every week... not cool. If you really don't like the person, then you know it, and its time to stop lying to yourself. Why would you want someone you don't even like? Where dey do dat at?
Sign Number 3: YOU LOOKED DEEP, BEFORE YOU LEAPED
You have to make sure you know the person, and I am not talking about you knew lil' Mikey in kindergarten, or you have had a long distance relationship since 2007 and ya only see your boo once a month. That's equivalent to a couple that just met five weeks ago and live in the same neighborhood and see each other every day. I don't wanna see anyone on Judge Maybeline talking 'bout they ain't know that they siggy was a jiggy and been liven' off of women for 15 years, and lil' pookie n' dem on the playground are really his children.
Sign Number 4: D BIBLE SAYS, YOU MUST BE EQUALLY YOKED!!!!
In the words of Fire Marshall Bill, "Lemme tell you somethin'... " Being on the same page religiously or spiritually is a MUST! If you think God or a statue, or a rat, should determine how you live your life, or whatever's your pleasure, your siggy MUST feel the same way or you two will always be going in different directions because you just don't agree, you have different beliefs. If you and your partner are not religious at all, fine, but you still have some world issues to discuss, for example: Let's say.... you think Michael Jackson was the greatest icon of all time and you want your kids to know him as an icon and you have already stocked up on MJ bibs and onsies, and your siggy thinks he is a child molesting psycho perv, and that his name should be kept far away from the chillins as possible. YOU-MAY-HAVE- A-PROBLEM.
Which leads me to the next point...
Sign Number 5: EQUAL LIFE PLANS
If you want to move to Africa and raise your children for 15 years, and your siggy still doesn't want to leave the south side of DC because s/he was born and raised there, and they still the same old g. YOU-MAY-ALSO-HAVE-A-PROBLEM. Ya gotta have the same life plans.
Sign Number 6: YOU DON'T SPEND THE TIME JUST PASSING TIME; YOU PLAY WELL TOGETHER
Of course we can all pass the time and just pretend we are getting along and say, " I am chillin' wit my girls today!", and go out to the mall Or, I am chillin' wit my boys today!", and you leave to go shoot some hoops. But what about chillin' with each other? And this by no means just refers to just sexual intercourse, Sign Number 1, won't get you all the way through a marriage.Two people in a relationship can actually like doing the same things, and it happens, its a part of compatibility. It's not just a coincidence for some, and it should be a major thing for all... think about it.
Sign Number 7: Captain Obvious says, "YOU BOTH WANT 2 BE MARRIED!"
Don't try to persuade someone into marriage that still wants the single life, because they may come on your side of the fence and go through the motions for a little while, but chances are they'll go right back. A lifestyle is for a lifetime, someone either wants to change it and commit to you or they don't. Make sure that's what you want too. And for the fellas out there let me just say this; if you have been living a married life for over a year, chances are YOU are ready, and you are in denial. If you think you have an image to maintain, chances are that image went out the window longggg time ago, when ya moved in together and gave her your credit card pin number... get over it.
Sign Number 8: YOU ARE TOGETHER AS AN INDIVIDUAL
I mean don't get me wrong we all have our issues, that we will be working on forever, no one is perfect. But ya gotta make sure that you are comfortable with you. I am talking, physically, spiritually and mentally. How's that self-esteem? If you got some deeeep issues like, you feel like jumping off a bridge from time to time, or have thought out an elaborate plan to kill your siggy,
or you magically acquire new heroine track marks on a regular basis, now just might not be the right time to be a part of a union. Because you are weak on your own end, and if you love someone, why would you want to burden them like that?
Sign Number 9: YOU TRUST YOUR PARTNER
Yes I said it, and I meant it, TRUST. You don't jump and wonder when his/ her phone rings who is calling. And know as an adult that you aren't being STUPID for not caring, but because you already know there is no need to go through those text messages, and check that Facebook inbox because there is nothing there. Please don't confuse this for knowing that there is something to find there and you just don't want to find it. You know the difference.
Sign Number 10: YOUR PARTNER TRUSTS YOU
Yes, I said it, and I meant it again, TRUST x 2! It takes two to tango baby. Are you trustworthy? Does your partner know it for sure? Do you focus a lot of energy on some one other than your partner? Like that co-worker you were just talking about...or Keisha's boyfriend's friend? Be honest with yourself, be fair, don't jump into a commitment when you are only going to have one foot in the door, I mean that is TOTALLY unfair, not only are you a bad siggy but a bad friend, with a siggy like you, who needs a relationship? We can all be one foot in the door and one foot out with others that's called the dating game, and that's for the single world, know the difference.
Either way people, you can't change how you feel, and you can't make someone else change how they feel. Feelings come naturally. Make sure you both want to jump ova the broom, cuz one of you all might pick that joint up and fly away on it, while the other one is left behind singing "Emotional Rollercoaster" by Vivian Green, or hell, "I got 99 problems..." by Jay Z. Be careful, no need for a WTF! --- Setset
Gotta anymore good pointers for the singles that are considering marriage? Please feel free to comment and add them to my list!
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